I had to face it. It was just the plain truth.
I WAS A FAT DAD.
From the time my daughter was born until she was 3, I had gained several inches around my waist and I didn’t want to believe it, but I had become obese.
Most people have kids when they are in their early 20’s but I didn’t go that route. I waited until I was in my 40’s before getting married.
And when I became a father, I couldn’t walk more than a half a block with my daughter on my shoulders.
She LOVES being on my shoulders—even today and she’s almost 6.
The thing that kills me about this is that we were both fit. We trained for a marathon before finding out we were going to be parents. We had got up to 20 miles during training!
My wife used to kick-box and I enjoyed running. So, we WERE fit and then we became parents. We put on weight like most people do.
But we also went through some very hard times. We got pregnant not long after I took a great job making a lot of money. In the span of a year, I lost my dad to cancer and I was laid off and we declared bankruptcy because our “full coverage” didn’t cover the 5-figure cost of “normal” childbirth. And then it got worse.
We had two murders on our street and I was almost mugged early one morning walking out of our apartment. Someone burned alive our neighborhood homeless guy. We decided to move out of our neighborhood to a quieter place that would save us money, but despite our best intentions, we were ripped off thousands of dollars in a sublet scam and so the three of us (Angelina was 18 months) ended up living out of our car for a short while and we had put everything into storage.
This was a big wake up call. Things had to change.
If it weren’t for one of our friends, we would have ended up staying in our car for an unknown period of time.
Since we had everything in storage, we basically left Los Angeles right away and moved to an inexpensive little town in wine country near the sea. We used to come up this way and talked about retiring here but decided to JUST DO IT and so we did. That was the first big step in turning our lives around.
After we got settled in, we realized we had to do something about our fitness. It made no sense that we would cut our lives short by getting fat like so many in my family who had diabetes, heart problems, strokes and were dropping like flies from cancer. I lost two uncles and my dad to cancer between 2004 and 2007.
We started thinking about how old we would be when our daughter was old enough to marry and realized that the future wasn’t looking very bright for ourselves and for our daughter the way things were going.
So we did P90X and drank their Shakeology meal replacement every day and returned to a normal weight. I lost over 55 pounds and went from a size 46 to size 32 pants. My wife lost over 50 pounds and went from a size 14 to a size 2.
I forgot to mention that in the midst of all this, I went back to school and worked for Bragg Live Foods in Santa Barbara while we got our fitness together. No excuse was too big to overcome. We had to change from caterpillars into butterflies for our daughter.
We were lucky that it wasn’t too late for us. In July 2013, a good friend of mine died of heart failure and he was only 45 and that was the same age I was when we started turning our fitness around.
If you are reading this and thinking you could lose some weight, too, then I ask you to stop thinking about it and contact me. Every day that passes means you are closer to a point of no return. Don’t wait. Contact me using the form below and I will help you to do what I did.